DSi XL Destroyed P10 Connector Where to Bypass?

First ripped off the latch, then broke the latch trying to put back on. Tried soldering ribbon cable to remaining prongs with no success, melting the connector.

Removed the connector and ripped off the pads trying to clean the melted plastic off.

Board is now clean but missing 3 of 4 pads and replacing the connector is out of the question I believe.

I would like to solder wires from the ribbon cable to points on the motherboard bypassing the connector/pads.

Anyone know what chip legs/components I could use instead?

|1|2|3|4| - (picture orientation) ribbon traces.

CAT5 wires to connect from ribbon to components on MB.

|x|x|x|4| - (picture orientation) 4th pad left but sitting loose and just about broken off. (X traces/pads on the motherboard broke off)